Survivors’ Notes

Your Purpose

Presenting is NOT about reliving or triggering painful memories. If you are triggered, take a break. Know ahead of time what you will do to keep yourself focused on your purpose for presenting. For example: Is your purpose to educate? …to empower? …or to engage a specific community? Or maybe all three! Choose your purpose and stay committed to it throughout your presentation!


 Not sure what to talk about?

RG encourages presenters to offer specific recommendations based on what they received (in terms of help) and what they see working (or not) for current victims and survivors.

Your Story

When we do feel supported and safe enough to share past hurts, we do so with support before, during and especially AFTER the presentation.


Be U-nique

Every RG presenter is different. We all share some qualities — we are smart, bold, outspoken and funny, however, we often present in our own unique way. We love to learn from each other, but we will have our own style and our own way of connecting with the audience when presenting.


Something I wish I knew from the start: Most trainers and speakers have full time jobs outside of training and speaking. Even full-time trainers are usually also running full-time businesses.

It might make you feel better to know that we have all been in a place where we desperately wanted to do this work full-time, but held onto other jobs until we could make that happen. You do not start an organization on your own overnight either. When you are a traditional start-up it can take years to get on your own payroll (if that ever happens). For a non-profit it may take even longer to secure and hold onto funding.

Having perspective will be invaluable to you when you later ask for and receive compensation. The goal in seeking compensation for a training or event is to sustain and build your work in this field. You are able to train or present when you are well balanced, and that includes financial, physical, emotional and spiritual well being.


Value Your Time

On the financial side, one way to value your time is to calculate how much work (or work opportunities) you will miss by being at the event or training. Your time is valuable and you should feel confident about asking for compensation that you need to replace income that is lost. When you value your time then others will be able to as well.

Measure of Success

When you do ask for payment from coordinators do your best to recognize that compensating survivors can be a challenge. Be prepared to offer a way to measure survivor involvement and success. This could be a feedback form or an additional question for participants on their evaluations of the training or course.